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Intimate Love. Are you ready for it?

What is Love?

From Dictionary.com:

1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire

Love is sexual passion or desire? Hmmm….

What is Intimate? 

1. associated in close personal relations: an intimate friend.
2. characterized by or involving warm friendship or a personally close or familiar association or feeling: an intimate greeting.
3. very private; closely personal: one’s intimate affairs.
4. characterized by or suggesting an atmosphere conducive to privacy or intimacy; warmly cozy: an intimate little café where we can relax and talk.
5. (of an association, knowledge, understanding, etc.) arising from close personal connection or familiar experience.
6. engaged in or characterized by sexual relations: too young to handle an intimate relationship.
7. (of women’s clothing) worn next to the skin, under street or outer garments: a store that sells intimate apparel.

What is Intimate Love?

Dictionary.com doesn’t have an answer for that one, so I’m going to give you my definition for it.

Intimate Love is the Total Giving of yourself to another human being. 

Imagine being so close with a partner, with complete honesty and trust, that you give yourself completely to them?

When hubs and I went thru pre-cana classes we had a retreat to attend. The priest talked about communion. Communion is representative of Christ’s total giving of himself to us. In the Christian world, that’s exactly what he did. He gave up his life for “us”.I’m not here to debate Christianity, or any religion for that matter. Looking back at the priest’s comment, I find it insightful and representative to my definition of Intimate Love.

So what stops us? What stops us from experiencing Intimate Love?

This brings into question our own values, experiences, how we were raised and how our past can block our ability to give and receive Intimate Love.

How were you raised?

Were you raised with a religious value that teaches you sex is animalistic and only for making babies?

Were you raised in a household where you couldn’t trust members of your family? I am thinking right now about my pre-teen daughter and how we, as parents, have invaded her privacy, and she and her brother have done the same to each other. I have to wonder what the effect is on them.

Were you raised by parents that yelled and were mad at what seem now like trivial problems? Or do you remember something that was SO BIG, that you still think it’s a HUGE problem today? Think some more about it. It could be trivial. Like the big mess on the kitchen table, when you think about it, is just a dirty napkin, a plate and a glass that need to be put in the sink…

Our experiences shape our view of the world and our values are often “taught”.

What if we could let go of what we were taught and instead, live to seek out our own values? 

If you are living with values you’ve been taught to uphold, you may be cheating yourself from ever experiencing Intimate Love.If you value honesty and trust, and you live with honesty and trust, it will be easier for you to open your heart, your mind, your body and your soul to experiencing Intimate Love. Do you have it in you? Do you open yourself up with honesty and trust? Have you experienced Intimate Love? Are you able to give yourself completely to another, without fear, without judgement and only with love?

I’d love to hear your definition of Intimate Love. Share your story in the comments below!